The Train Analogy That Changed My Perspective

There’s a truth someone shared with me recently that really hit hard:

“If you have a girl, she will probably leave you… if you don’t know where you’re going.”

At first, it sounded cold. But then he explained it using a simple yet powerful analogy — and it made perfect sense.

He said:

“You are a train. A girl steps in and asks, ‘Why aren’t you moving?’

You reply, ‘I don’t know where I’m going.’

Then another train pulls up. This train says, “I’m headed to --- wanna come along?”

And just like that, she gets on the other train.

Why?

Because that train knows where it’s going.

People are drawn to direction. To clarity. To momentum.

So the lesson was clear: Know your destination.

- Don’t wait for someone to come into your life and complete your story — write your story first.

- Set your path. Once you’re moving, others will naturally want to ride with you.

Some will get off along the way. But the one who stays — the one who aligns with your destination — she’s the right one. There is no right one actually.

Then he dropped another line that stuck:

“The question isn’t "Does this girl like me?" It’s "How can I become the kind of person the girl I want would be attracted to?".

That flipped my thinking. It’s not about chasing love — it’s about becoming someone worth loving. Position yourself. Build yourself. And let people come to you — not by begging, but by being magnetic.

We even talked about social media. He encouraged me to go back to making videos and content — not to impress, but to express. Let my interests shine. Let videos market me. Be visible. Not to hunt for girls, but to be in the right ecosystem — a bigger pool of people who vibe with what I love.

He said something else that felt like a punch in the gut — in a good way:

+ “It’s not that you don’t know your purpose. You just haven’t decided yet.”

That made me pause. I do love coding. I love making videos. But maybe I’ve been standing at the station too long — waiting for the ‘perfect’ direction instead of choosing one and going all in.

Ken — that’s his name — shared a ton of insights. And what’s crazy is, he’s not just talking. He’s already living it. He’s got plans, experience, and clarity. All I have to do is decide, commit, and move. Just like what he is doing.